Thursday, October 6, 2011

Put on a Happy Face...





1.) Share a disagreement you’re having with someone and let your readers be the judge!
2.) Tell us about your song.
3.) Share a Halloween craft.
4.) Slow dancing with boys…talk about one of your first school dance experiences.
5.) I have no idea where the following message originated from, but it’s been floating around Facebook for the past week…who does it make you think about?:



Sooooo...I know I haven't written in forever...where does the time go?
I blog in my head ALL. THE. TIME.  It's just that the words in my head never make it to the page screen. I'm trying to do better; I promise! 
This week, I am making myself do a writing prompt, even though I should be sleeping :-) 
I really do feel that writing, and writing for this blog, is therapeutic for me and I enjoy it when I can find the time.
This week, it's almost ironic that that the first prompt is a writing option!
I have a "disagreement" of sorts to run by you...


My whole life, I've had to hear things like, "you're so much prettier when you smile;" or "why do you look so serious all the time?"
I've heard it from strangers, I've heard it from people like my grandmother...
Think about how that makes a child feel.
I mean- REALLY THINK ABOUT IT! How do you think a 6 or 7 year old girl feels when her grandmother says that to her CONSTANTLY?
So anyway, needless to say, I am a very analytical person, always have been, but that does not equate to unhappy.


Recently, I've had some bouts with depression, not feeling good enough, and, in general, not feeling "OK."
BUT the older I get, the more I am able to conceal some things and "put on a happy face."
I mean, really, not every John Doe on the street needs to know my business!  I'm not being fake; I'm just trying to be positive and cheerful in public.
Nobody likes a Debbie Downer, right?


So that's why I got really defensive today when someone insinuated that "putting on a happy face" is being fake.  This same person, is of a collective group who never fails to voice their "be happy" mantra.


So it seems, this person cannot be pleased.  She doesn't want to be around people who aren't high energy, bubbly, and "up" all the time, yet putting on a cheerful demeanor and smiling to mask the pain,  that's fake!


So what do you think?  Is it a crime to "pretend" to be happy or should we all air our discontent with anyone who asks?


Food for thought...

2 comments:

  1. I think for some people, who we don't know, it's good to try and put on a happy face. If not, you run the risk of them asking what's wrong and then you have to decide if you want to tell them everything. :) With those I'm close to, I feel comfortable enough to show them my true feelings and never hide anything.

    Stopping by from Mama Kat's!

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  2. I agree w/Jamie. With "true" friends, you should always be able to be genuine. If you're hurting, you can let them know. If you're hurting all the time and are trying to manage it and don't want to be Debbie Downer, then a happy face is fine. It's not fake. Fake, to me, is pretending to care about someone's pain when you really don't; choosing to simply not share when you're feeling down is trying to not be a burden.

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